While this article deals with Fibromyalgia, it will ring true with anyone who is suffering from an autoimmune disease. Almost everyone with an autoimmune disease has had at least one rude encounter with a doctor, friend, or loved one questioning their pain.
Some Doctors, Friends, Relatives Dismiss Sickness"I know in my case I just had the idea if you got sick you went to a doctor and they treated you," Matallana said. "I never, ever imagined someone would question my pain and my inability to function. That was to me almost as bad as enduring the physical symptoms.”
“The transformation of dynamic people into suffering wrecks, without any apparent cause, prompts confusion and questioning. Fibromyalgia patients say even friends, relatives and spouses find it hard to accept the reality of what has been called an invisible illness.”
“Dr. Patrick Wood, an assistant professor of medicine at Louisiana State University, decided to specialize in fibromyalgia … I don't think it makes me popular with my colleagues, but we're trained to be little gods and anything that challenges our god-like capacity we dismiss," Wood said. "(A doctor) could say, 'There's nothing to objectively demonstrate you're really sick. How do I know you're sick?' You have to trust the patient's report, which we're often not willing to do when it comes to pain."
“Some doctors dismiss patients with vague complaints of pain as hypochondriacs or malingerers, lazy people looking for an excuse not to work. It doesn't help matters that he and other doctors regularly encounter true malingerers, about whom they must make judgments to determine government disability payments.”
"Every doctor is faced with being a useful idiot, being a tool for somebody who wants to get out of work," said Lubin, who trained at Yale and Harvard. "I'd rather you fooled me once and then I could say, 'Shame on you,' rather than try to prevent my ego from ever being bruised by assuming everyone whoever asked me for a pill for their pain is a drug-seeker. We can't lose our humanity just because we're afraid of being hoodwinked."